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I just wanted to pass the sad news along that my father (Sy) passed away today at 1:20 pm after a 5 month battle with liver cancer. I personally want to thank each and every one of you that took the time to call him, visit him, or send him a card while he was home during his struggle. Each time a card, person, or phone call came ....it made his eyes light up to know that he was being thought of.

Owning the Bertram and being able to take him to rendezvous and tournaments and just out fishing did a lot to keep him in good spirits. Even though we have had boats since I was a small child, I know the last 5 years were some of the best years of his life. He was so proud to wear his Bertram hats and shirts, and just to be part of this family that we have.

I LOVE YOU Dad.
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Harv, My condolences to you and your family... Stay strong.....
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Harv, my thoughts are with you. If you need anything you let me know.
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Harv- So sorry to hear the news. My family sends it's sincere condolences to yours. Hate to lose another member of the old guard. Cherish the memories. Walter
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Harv- Sorry to hear this. Please accept my sincerest condolences. As Walter said "Hate to lose another member of the old guard."

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Harv:

I lost my father on December 30, 2006, after six years of battle with brain cancer. I was only 34 years of age when that happened. He never got a chance to ride my B31 and I think of him everytime I go out to fish. From your words I can conclude that he was very proud of you and what you have accomplished in life. He is now resting in peace and he is in a better place than this one. My condolences to you and your family and keep your head up high when you go out that inlet, because now he will be besides you anywhere you go, anywhere you fish. As you very well said, the struggle is over....is time to heal and to deal with the ones that are still down here.

Next season is up......good fishing to you!
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harv
so sorry for your lose you and your family will be in my prayers
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Post by John F. »

Harv-

I'm really sorry to hear of your loss. I really enjoyed fishing with you and Sy on Doug's boat, and always enjoyed Sy at AC. Really sorry. Hang in there.

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Harv

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I know its a tough one. Been through it and no matter what its never easy.
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Harv eventhough I've never met you or your father my sincerest condolences to you and the family.

May he rest in peace !
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Harv
My condolences to you and your family.

One of my uncles passed a couple of years ago.......he and I did a lot together when I was a kid.......Like you, my fondest memories are times we spent fishing in the bays and shooting guns at the local clay pit. My most vivid mental picture is of Uncle dealing with an 11 pound Red Snapper.....he was older and it was a real struggle for him..........we laughed and laughed

I am sure that you will miss Sy.........at least you have the good times

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Harv...

Please be assured that the sadness you feel now will moderate over time, but the good memories you have will endure forever. When my stepfather passed away many years ago a good friend of his took me aside and passed on this comment.. simply.. "A man is not really a man until his father passes away!"

I have thought of this comment many times in my life! It is your turn now to pass his characteristics and standards on by living them every day. You can't go wrong if you endeavor to live your life in a manner that would make him proud!

I wish you peace and comfort in your time of grief.

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Harv,
I offer my deepest condolences because I, too, lost my father (Bobby Small) Monday here in Pensacola. He was a very big Bertram fan, and I credit him for everything that I am today. Hang in there, brother. We're gonna get through this. My prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

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really sorry to hear that....sincerest condolences
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Very sorry for your loss Harv. I'm glad you got to spend some quality time on the water together.
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Sorry to hear that Harv. Deepest sympathies.....
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Harv,

My deepest sympathies to you and your family. I lost my Dad two years ago, and I miss him every day. Similar to your situation, he was my best friend. What a blessing that we had our dads as long as we did, and that we both have such fond memories about them.

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Harv:

My deepest sympathy to you and your family on the loss of your father. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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Harv,
My prayers today are for your father. They will be made from the helm so I know he will hear them.
Also, bless you my friend.
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I am truly sorry for your loss, my prayers go out to you and your family. It sounds like you have alot of found memories to cheerish, I'm sorry I never got to meet him.
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Harv,
My condolences to you and your family...Makes me think of all the fond memories I have had with my Dad on his 37 Bertram "Westwater".
The love of the ocean and the bond between a father and son lives on for ever.
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Harv, my condolonces - It sound like you've got a great support network.

My Father died a 33 years ago and I still miss him. We scattered his ashes at the Point Grey Bellbuoy which is at the mouth of Vancouver Harbour. I pass it almost everytime I go boating and always say Hi to him. Whenever anything big happens in my life I go out there and we have a chat and sometimes a beer. It is great to have a place on the water that helps you to make a connection.
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Harv,

My condolonces to you and your family.


Kelly,

Ditto, about your Dad also.

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sorry for your loss, Harv
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Sorry for your loss Harv

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Our condolenses Harv.
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Sincerest and deepest sympathies.
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Harv,

My condolences to you and your family. No doubt about it a class act, and I know you well enough to know you will carry on the tradition.

Kelly, My condolences to you and your family as well.

You are both in my thoughts, as well as Liz's.

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Harv: My condolences on your dads passing he was a good man. I was Glad to have him blackfish with my crew. Carry thegood memories forever. Ray
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Sorry Harv. Our condolences to you and your family.
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Harv,

My condolences to you and your family. I feel lucky to have gotten to know him just a little over the past few years. Certainly enough to know we lost a good man. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Sincerly,
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Harv,
Pat and I are so sorry to hear this. Sy looked just great a month ago. I thought he would go on forever. Our deepest sympathies.
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Harv,

Just got back from an Austin trip, so late to get the word... Sorry to share your news. Sy went knowing that he was loved & many folks had him in their thoughts...

Br,

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My condolences to you and your family.
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Post by Rumrunner »

Sorry to hear of your loss. Both kathleen and I have been there and we know how it feels.

If there is any thing we can do let me know

Tom and Kathleen Ward and the Crew of the Rumrunner offer our condolences.

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Sorry for you loss.
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harv, i dont know you but im sorry for your loss. i too lost my dad this year and i still cry everyday thinking of him. its not just him i miss its the being young, and having a father there to watch everything grow. im sure your memories of him will last thru your life time and beyond. fathers always seemed to raise us when times were innocent. i wish we could all go back, and be young again. tonight i'll try to imagine your dad and mine looking at our boat's and wondering.......why do they always have to fix it? rest in peace.....alex.
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Harv - our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. You are good people.

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Sorry for your loss, Harv.
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Very sorry to hear that Harv. I lost my Dad in 1999 to cancer. No one who has not been through it would understand this, but at the time it was a blessing. Time will dull the pain of the loss and amplify your memories of the good times. Hang in there my friend, we are all with you.
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Harv

So sorry for your loss I too have lost my Dad back in 2001 after 10 years of many ups and downs. I was only lucky enough to get him out once on the boat and it was the first year I had it, and it was in sad shape! But I have a picture of him in the cockpit that I will cherish for ever.
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sorry to hear it, Harv.

I hope he left the world without to much pain.

Lost my father in-law on Christmas day 2007, due to stomach cancer...those Hospice folks are true angels.

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Post by Bruce »

Harv,

You may have thought I didn't see,
Or that I hadn't heard,
Life lessons that you taught to me,
But I got every word.


Perhaps you thought I missed it all,
And that we'd grow apart,
But Dad, I picked up everything,
It's written on my heart.


Without you, Dad, I wouldn't be
The man I am today;
You built a strong foundation
No one can take away.


I've grown up with your values,
And I'm very glad I did;
So here's to you, dear father,
From your forever grateful kid.



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God Bless Harv.
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Harv,
Our condolences on your loss.

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Just wanted to thank everyone for their condolences and kind words.
It helps to know that I have chosen my friends wisely, it makes coping a whole lot easier.

My condolences as well to Kelly and Capy
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